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Chapter 290 Understanding
Lu Yuanqing paused. Judging from the situation, it must be a relationship issue; was he thinking of getting married?
"Tell me! I'll help you solve anything I can."
He said it with such firmness and composure.
Lu Mingnan felt a warmth in his heart. He always felt fortunate that Lu Yuanqing unconditionally protected them, and that he was fortunate to have him around.
"No, Uncle, it's just that I suddenly discovered something today. This thing is quite different from what I've seen before, and it's a bit hard for me to understand. I know there's something wrong with this situation, but I can't help but want to make excuses for her. After I stop blaming her and try to understand, I still can't convince myself."
This is what truly troubles Lu Mingnan.
He saw through Cheng Ruolan's different side, felt sorry for her in this state, and kept making excuses for her.
But after he truly exonerated himself, he found that he seemed to have convinced others, but he couldn't convince himself.
These nonsensical words gave Lu Yuanqing a headache.
He said that emotional issues are the most complex issues in the world.
So he said, "You mean, you originally knew someone very well, but suddenly you find that she is one way in front of you, and another way when you don't know her. You are understanding and think that it is understandable for her to be like this, and you want to understand her and tolerate her differences. But because the difference between her two sides is too big, even after you understand her, you feel awkward and trouble yourself?"
It must be said that Lu Yuanqing is still Lu Yuanqing. Even without knowing the specifics, he was able to extract key information from Lu Mingnan's incoherent words.
Lu Mingnan's eyes lit up. "Yes, that's it, that's exactly right!"
He felt that his expression was not accurate enough to convey his true thoughts.
After hearing Lu Yuanqing's words, he suddenly had a clear idea.
Lu Yuanqing was quite pleased with the admiring look in his eyes and immediately became a little smug.
As expected of him!
"So, Uncle, what do you think I should do?" Lu Mingnan asked, somewhat troubled.
Lu Yuanqing smiled, not answering his question directly, but instead asking, "What do you think of your brother Xiaodong?"
"What do you mean, how is it?" Lu Mingnan asked, bewildered. Wasn't this supposed to be about his problem? Why is it bringing up Lu Mingdong again?
Lu Yuanqing: "Do you think there's a difference between how your brother Xiaodong is in front of us and how he is in front of outsiders?"
Upon hearing this, Lu Mingnan pondered for a moment, trying to recall the scenes of Lu Mingdong's interactions with his family and outsiders.
After a long silence, he said, "They are different."
Lu Mingdong is truly aloof to outsiders; one could even describe him as indifferent.
The most obvious point is that Lu Mingdong speaks simply to outsiders; if he can resolve something with one or two words, he won't bother to say anything more.
Their attitude was even worse.
But when he's with his family, even if he's expressionless, he'll take the initiative to talk. He also used to fight with Lu Mingxi a lot when they were kids.
Lu Mingdong was the best-looking child in his family when he was young.
They were all emaciated from hunger, their faces pale and their hair dry and yellow.
Even though Lu Mingdong looked very thin because of long-term hunger, his hair was very black, the kind of dark black, and his face was very fair.
After Lu Yuanqing changed the family's situation, everyone started to gain weight, but Lu Mingdong was the most obvious. His little face quickly became chubby, and baby fat stayed with him for a long time.
This led Lu Yuanqing and the others to enjoy pinching his little face, at which point they could see a lot of expressive features on his face.
Seeing that he understood something, Lu Yuanqing continued, "Then think about it carefully again. Is there any difference between how your brother Xiaodong faces us and how he faces your sister-in-law Cheng Xia?"
Lu Mingnan continued to recall.
Then it dawned on him, "Yes, there is. When Brother Xiaodong is facing his sister-in-law, sometimes he smiles, and his eyes look different."
In the past, he wouldn't have understood the way Lu Mingdong looked at Cheng Xia.
But when he found someone he liked, he understood.
That look in his eyes was full of smiles and affection!
Lu Yuanqing spread his hands and said, "Look, it's still the same person, your little Dong brother, but his expression and attitude are different when facing different people."
"So what are you struggling with? Xiao Nan, people have many facets. You may feel that you are only seeing two sides of the other person, but how can you be sure that people only have two sides? Maybe there are many other sides that you haven't seen. Are you going to worry about such a simple question?"
"Are you like that yourself? When you like someone, you want to give her everything and don't want her to suffer at all. But when you don't like someone, you even want all the suffering in the world to come after him."
"But your third uncle knows your dilemma. Because the other person is someone you like and care about, you want her to be a perfect person. But there is no perfect person in this world. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Are you... perhaps deep down, having too high expectations for the person you like?"
"What?" Lu Mingnan asked, stunned.
Lu Yuanqing stood up, took a few steps forward, and just like when he was a child, rubbed his head. Well, of course, he rubbed it harder than he did when Lu Mingnan was a child, causing Lu Mingnan's head to shake involuntarily in his hand.
Lu Yuanqing chuckled and said, "I just didn't expect you to be so naive."
Lu Mingnan stared blankly at him, feeling that the word 'naive' was not a compliment.
Lu Yuanqing rubbed his head until he was done, then suddenly tapped him on the forehead.
Lu Mingnan stared blankly as he covered the spot where he had been hit.
Lu Yuanqing: "I suddenly realized that you like Cheng Zhiqing not because she acts very gentle and dependent on you, or because she fulfills all your fantasies about a partner."
"I..." Lu Mingnan wanted to refute, but he didn't know how, because it seemed that Lu Yuanqing had seen through his previous ignorance.
Yes!
Why was he so insistent on Cheng Ruolan's duality?
Is it because he liked the side of Cheng Ruolan he saw, but disliked the other side?
Even though his upbringing taught him to understand the other person's reasons, he couldn't convince himself otherwise.
"Third Uncle, am I being inappropriate?" For some reason, Lu Mingnan suddenly felt a little ashamed.
Lu Yuanqing laughed and said, "What's wrong with that? You can be with someone based on what kind of person you like, there's no problem with that!"
“But I feel like my behavior is really wrong!” Lu Mingnan said.
“That’s not right!” Lu Yuanqing said, “But that’s not what’s wrong. You’re an adult, and it’s not wrong to have a fixed idea of what you like in a partner. Everyone is special, unique, and different. It’s not wrong for you to like this or not like that. Everyone’s preferences are different!”
"But you've made a mistake. You've overlooked the fact that a person's personality can change. Whether it's due to family reasons, living environment, or even a simple example from someone else, it can lead to different insights and thus affect one's own perception."
“Just like before, I always forced you to study because I knew that we were in the countryside and studying was the only way to change your lives. Your older brother and sister all followed this path and did well, so naturally I didn’t want you to go astray.”
"But later, when the village developed a trade, I realized that even if you didn't go to school, you could make a living with your trade and I wouldn't have to worry about your future livelihood. So I changed my mind about forcing you to study."
"Xiao Nan, this is your own personal experience, so you must understand the changes better than anyone else. So, will you be troubled because your Uncle, or you yourself, have changed in this matter and have different thoughts and perspectives?"
"No!" Lu Mingnan shook his head firmly.
After answering instinctively, he suddenly froze in place.
He seemed to understand what Lu Yuanqing meant.
Lu Yuanqing smiled with satisfaction and continued, "That's right! In a lifetime, you'll encounter many people and many things. Any one of them, any small thing, can change you. Some changes are obvious, while others are subtle, so subtle that you can't even notice them, but you can't deny their existence."
"It's true that you like certain types of people and personalities, but you can't expect the people you like to always be the way you like them. You should realize that people change. Maybe right now, their appearance, personality, and way of doing things are what you like, but next year, they might become the side of them that you hate the most."
"What you need to understand is that if you really like someone, you have to like every aspect of her."
If it's so clear, and Lu Mingnan still doesn't understand, then he really is a complete fool.
"Third Uncle, I understand!" Lu Mingnan pursed his lips and said with difficulty.
Lu Yuanqing smiled and asked curiously, "You're talking about Cheng Zhiqing, right? You learned about her other side because of some reason? Now that you understand this, what's your decision?"
Lu Mingnan did not answer, as if he was lost in his own thoughts.
After asking his question, Lu Yuanqing wasn't in a rush to find out the answer. So he started working on his own tasks, leaving Lu Mingnan alone as they stared blankly at each other.
Some truths require guidance from an elder like him.
However, some answers require the individuals involved to make their own decisions.
Lu Yuanqing only hoped that whatever decision Lu Mingnan made, he wouldn't regret it.
For a moment, the office fell silent, with only the sound of Lu Yuanqing flipping through documents and the occasional scribbling of his pen on paper.
After thinking for an unknown amount of time, Lu Mingnan suddenly stood up, startling Lu Yuanqing, who was completely absorbed in his work.
Lu Yuanqing looked up and met Lu Mingnan's resolute expression.
Lu Mingnan: "Third Uncle, I want to marry Ruolan."
Lu Yuanqing: "..."
"……Can!"
As soon as he finished speaking, Lu Mingnan's lips curled up and a big smile appeared on his face. "Thank you, Third Uncle."
After saying that, he couldn't wait to leave and find Cheng Ruolan.
Lu Yuanqing threw down his pen and watched Lu Mingnan's figure disappear into the office.
……
Lu Mingnan thought about it a lot.
He is not actually a thoughtful person.
He could even be considered the least thoughtful person in the entire Lu family, even less so than Lu Yuanbo.
Lu Yuanbo's behavior stems from his personality; he prefers to act directly and doesn't like to overthink things.
Lu Mingnan is different.
He is the kind of person who doesn't like to think.
Or rather, he has rarely encountered problems in his life that require him to think.
Perhaps the only thing that ever troubled him was the year he almost starved to death.
But later, with Lu Yuanqing supporting him at home, he didn't need to think too much.
It seems that once basic needs like food and clothing are met, all other problems cease to be problems for Lu Mingnan.
It might be related to his personality; he's easygoing and doesn't have anything he particularly needs to insist on.
He can give up on things that require his effort at any time.
Of course, it's also possible that he has Lu Yuanqing as his third uncle.
He gets many things without much effort, so there's no need to mention the need for hard work.
Perhaps the only time and effort he ever devoted to learning bamboo weaving was during those few years.
He was completely dedicated to it.
Even when he was dating Cheng Ruolan, he didn't encounter the same difficulties as Lu Yuanbo.
Sometimes he even felt that God favored him, and that he could easily get whatever he wanted.
Therefore, he rarely engages in such thoughtful behavior.
However, this does not mean that he cannot think.
Cheng Ruolan's recent behavior seemed strange, and he began to ponder it.
He had also considered Liu Ling's words.
He thought about Lu Yuanqing's words for a long time, especially.
Lu Yuanqing asked him what his attitude towards Cheng Ruolan was after he understood what he had said, and whether he still wanted to be together.
Lu Mingnan thought about it for a long time.
He used his brain to think for a long time, like never before.
In the end, Lu Mingnan's decision was that he wanted to marry Cheng Ruolan.
Therefore, he expressed this idea directly after meeting Cheng Ruolan.
Cheng Ruolan never expected that the first thing he said to her when he rushed to find her was to get married.
This was completely unexpected for her.
After all, the two of them had never discussed this topic since they started dating.
"Mingnan, why are you suddenly bringing this up?" Cheng Ruolan asked calmly, showing neither joy nor any other emotion.
Lu Mingnan smiled at her, "Because, after thinking about it a lot, I still want to marry you!"
That's right. After learning everything about Cheng Ruolan, after discovering his own problems, and after carefully considering all the issues, he still wanted to be with Cheng Ruolan.
He truly loved Cheng Ruolan.
If you like it, then you don't need to think about it or worry about it too much.
He just wanted to marry her, to bring her home and treat her well.
Cheng Ruolan: "..."
"Do you have any concerns? I'm your boyfriend, the person you want to spend your life with. You can tell me anything that's bothering you!"